There are moments in life when a conversation must happen- not just for clarity, but for healing. The reason is simple yet profound: Freedom from within.
When we hold things in, out of fear, we don't protect ourselves, we harm ourselves. Unspoken thoughts can become emotional burdens, quietly ending our peace. But when something is pressing on your heart, the first step is to pause, and reflect. Ask yourself: what is it that I truly need to say? Once you have identified what is on your mind, consider how to express it. There is a way to speak your truth without harm. Here are three guiding principals to help you navigate those difficult, but necessary conversations.
1. Be Quick to Listen
There is a quiet voice within you- call it wisdom, intuition, or discernment- that will guide you. But you must be still enough to hear it. Don't rush into the conversation. Instead: listen deeply to yourself, to the moment, and eventually, to the other person.
2. Be Slow to Speak
Think carefully about your delivery, how will your words will land? How might the other person receive what's weighing on you. You can express your feelings without pointing the fingers, being accusatory, or using hurtful language. Thoughtful communication is powerful- it builds instead of tearing down.
3. Be Slow to Anger
Emotions are valid, but don't allow them to lead the conversation. Stay in control, be level-headed, and seek to understand. Give the other person time to process what you are saying. Don't expect an immediate response. Remember you have had time to sit with your thoughts- they haven't.
Anger stirs up strife- if you approach someone who offended you, or hurt you in anger, you are unlikely not to find a resolution.
But if you approach with clarity, compassion, and calm, you open the door to understanding and healing.
The ability to articulate what's bothering you is a gift- Speaking your truth with intention and care creates space for emotional freedom. And that freedom? Is the beginning of peace, growth, and deeper connection.
So, the next time something weighs heavy on your heart, remember: your voice matters. And when used wisely can set you free!